“No, this is not the beginning of a new chapter in my life; this is the beginning of a new book! That first book is already closed, ended, and tossed into the seas; this new book is newly opened, has just begun! Look, it is the first page! And it is a beautiful one!”
― C. JoyBell C.
When Labels Change
There were some new beginnings and change was definitely not unfamiliar to me I was an occupational therapist, wife, mom and business woman – in no particular order – for more than 25 years. That’s what I new, but most of all, I felt comfortable doing and being exactly that. I wore my labels proudly, I identified with them and as a result, they became the comfort zone I called home.
Until they started to fall apart. Suddenly my labels became obsolete and finally I woke up one morning realizing that my reality had changed irreversibly. It was scary, unfamiliar and uncomfortable.
Reframing My Reality
I had to face the music. Suddenly I had grown up kids who embraced their adulthood, hubby no longer worked from home but abroad and circumstances dictated a change in my employment. I was uncomfortable and scared but I needed to change. It was time for me to reframe my reality and to embrace a new beginning.
The How, What, When and Where of New Beginnings
I join the 50’s club this year and with so many changes over the past couple of months, I refuse to be overwhelmed or to feel daunted by the milestone. Fifty will be a new beginning for me and I will grab the opportunity to do things that are completely outside of my comfort zone. I will recreate “home” and I will reframe my reality to whatever I feel like every day – and I will learn to love it!
HERE ARE A COUPLE OF IDEAS I CHOOSE TO FOLLOW TO REFRAME MY REALITY AND TO EMBRACE NEW BEGINNINGS:
- Start something completely new. I will be opening the doors to our brand new guesthouse, The Boshoff within the next couple of weeks. The hospitality and travel industries are brand- spanking new and completely unfamiliar to me, which means I am researching and learning something new every day. Brilliant! It keeps my mind stimulated and occupied and I love it!
- Pluck up the courage to do something that frightens you ever so slightly. I am researching the best place to book a tandem parachuting experience BEFORE I turn fifty in May. I need to find someone who will be willing to do it despite my mobility issues. It scares me, but the mere thought of doing it makes me brim over with excitement!
- Shed the labels. I will always be a mom to two of the most awesome creatures that walk on this earth! But…I am not defined by them and the fact that they no longer depend on me doesn’t make me any “lesser” as a mom. So, as a result I choose to consider myself as an independent woman with two amazing adult children. Great, isn’t it! I will reassess each of my former labels and I think I am going to refrain from adopting any labels at all!
Change is as good as a holiday
It won’t happen overnight. I won’t feel comfortable with the changes immediately. No, it will take time but as the saying goes, “a change is as good as a holiday!” and I can do with a holiday right about now… I look forward to my new “career”, I eagerly await the new adventures that lie ahead and I will savour the newfound confidence that has arrived with the new beginning of this season in my life.
As C.JoyBell C wrote: “…this is the beginning of a new book…And it is a beautiful one!”
Do you need to change? Do you need to reframe your reality? Are you at the beginning of a new book in your life?